1. Self-judgement around past events
All the judgements you pass in your life, none are more important that the ones you have of yourself. A lot of self-judgement is inherent from previous experiences in your childhood, from your parents, the interactions with teachers, all the stimulus from what you see and hear around you.
Know that these are just thoughts. The more you talk or think about yourself in a negative way the more you will believe it. Don’t allow negative thoughts to control and you from enjoying the experience of living a happy and fulfilling life. The emotions that you feel around the thought are only temporary, they will pass.
When you find your inner judgement rising….
Take a breath. Look at the movie you are telling yourself and ask yourself;
What is this about?
Why do I feel this?
Where does this come from?
Is it serving me?
It’s often very helpful to write these observations down.
Focus on the positives about yourself. Notice if you start to think negatively. Instead, exchange this negative self-judgement for more loving, kind, and positive thoughts.
Say thank you and accept gratitude when someone pays you a complement or shows appreciation towards you.
Treat yourself with the love, kindness, and the compassion you would give to others.