The ancient Yogis and Buddhists teach us the practice of non-attachment. Only when we remove our attachments do we remove suffering.
Non-attachment doesn’t mean that you don’t care or don’t have feelings. When you are non-attached, you go about your daily life without any fixation, obsession, worry, or attachment to the final outcome. There is a band of resilience that enables you to cope better with all that life throws your way.
Whilst ‘non-attachment’ is strong with people who meditate, in the same research I mentioned earlier, the practice of non-attachment was evident in those who had experienced transformative suffering and wanted to live life without attachment to what they cannot change.
Don’t let fear rule you.
Fear. Coping with change and your ability to do so has its root in the fear of the unknown. Allow it too manifest and fear will stop you moving forward in life. Anticipatory anxiety is worrying about what could happen because you cannot predict or control the future. Stepping out of your safe, comfortable space into the unknown can feel very scary. Perhaps you don’t move forward with your life goals due to fear of failure.
But it is embracing change that enables you to grow as a person. To experience new things, places, to live a fulfilling life. Importantly, to live the life that you want. If you never try, how will you ever know? “There is a saying, it is better to try and fail than to never try at all.”
How to feel more comfortable with change?
Meditation and mindfulness techniques are very helpful tools that teach you skills to sit with the uncertainties in life.